Christian parents and dating
The world wants to define dating for your teenager.Satan bombards her with images of "normal relationships" that contradict God's Word.
As the first date approaches, discuss specific guidelines your family will honor. Do: Establish a general curfew for weekends and school nights. Don't: Insist that every date take place in your living room with you and your spouse. Dating is a completely new phase of life that must be learned. Trust God to protect your child and your influence in her life.Yes, they are resilient and quite capable of adapting to the new normal of their family, but no, they don't stop wondering about what might have been, wishing that broken relationships would mend, or grieving the multitude of losses that keep accumulating since the death or divorce. Dating has a way of showing you that the growth you gained from your recovery work was sufficient to being single, but not sufficient for contributing to an "us." Just because you have done some recovery work doesn't mean you or your children are ready for new relationships.Take one step at a time, and don't be surprised if dating reveals a hurt or pain you didn't know existed. The boy came in and met your parents; he paid for dinner; and you were home by p.m.Now, think about your teenager - and forget everything you know about dating.But you are deceived if you think that once you've "recovered," you've moved past that pain forever. Sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse, but do not be mistaken, it changes us forever.
One of the biggest mistakes I have seen countless singles make is assuming that because they or their dating partner graduated from a support ministry, there no longer exists a residue of pain in their heart.
Long before the first date, teach your child about dating.
In the early preteen years, help her to build a godly foundation for relationships. When your preteen seeks God, the world of dating (and your role as a parent) is a lot less stressful.
Thankfully, God is still stronger than the world, and He wants to protect your teen in the midst of temptation.
Good news: Your teenager can maintain healthy, God-honoring relationships. You have the power to redefine dating for your teenager, using strategies that can help you and your teen to navigate relational waters.
You can't totally shield her from destructive dating images. After you've created a dating foundation, proceed to discussions about relationships. Sometimes it's hard for parents to know when to hold fast and when to relax the rules.